This has been brought up before but it’s something that plagues my mind everyday now. I mentioned in a earlier post about opposites attract and in my case it’s more holding me back.
Basically what it boils down to is I’m hesitant to make it know to someone I care about of how I feel about her. Apart from the fact that she is incredibly beautiful and just watching her walk tells me that she knows it. But along with that beauty she is very driven, stands up for what she believes, very talented and intelligent. She is also focused on her health.
Now ordinarily this is exactly what most guys would want to get, myself included. But Everything she is I’m you could say the opposite. I have a frame of mind that you can not change something, so arguing about changing a political policy or something along those lines is just a waste of time. Unlike her, she would be the first one in line if it came to a protest, she is very passionate about her beliefs. As she takes care of her body with healthy eating and working out at a gym, I on the other hand dont really care what I eat. and the only gym exercise I get is at work. But I’m healthy as a horse and quite fit for someone like myself. But in generally we are quite opposites in so many way. She is also very out going while i on the other hand barely get out of the house, something I would change but with current situation is easier said than done. If I were to date her I’d be consistently trying to out do what I did on the last date and ensure she is happy and try to be what she would want me to be. Also doesn’t help we work for the same company.
It’s amazing how quickly someone can enter your mind and make you wonder how things would be if you were with that person and almost highlight all your errors and makes you see for what you really are. Makes you understand why you are single.
I guess there are just someone people that all they will be are friends and to be seen from afar.
Who are the better of the two, Men or woman. In physical strength men, but in mental strength it’s woman. Patience well that goes to woman but ambition that goes to the guys. Of course I’m not generalizing here, there very well can be guys that have great mental strength and woman that are more ambitious. The list can go one.
But when it comes to dating thats where men and woman are in a league of their own and this would appy for most men and woman. Lets start with men. For a guy to date a woman, Men are more likely to date the woman if she has a good body, nice long legs or a great firm ass. Regardless that her face may be a ugly as a horses ass, but if she falls in with one of the three factors a guy will likely date her cause he know eventually he will sleep with her. Sure for some personality plays a small part but the percentage for a guy between looks and personality would be 80% looks 20% personality.
Not to say that woman are any different, but for a woman to date a guy there are far more factors in play. For a woman to date a guy these factors are taken in to consideration:
- Type of job
- How much does he earn
- How rich is he
- What car does he drive
- How does he live
- Personality – good guy or bad guy
- Size of his dick
Then comes the personality bit. And woman know this that they have to be picky, after all its the guys that are making the move and if a woman goes to a bar dressed provocatively, its a given that she will get hit on all night, free drinks and pretty certain if she wanted to she would go home with someone and have her way with him. We have always hear that woman like a guy that romantic and sense of humor, I can tell you that just not true. You can be the hopeless romantic guy, but if you don’t have the looks you don’t stand a chance. As for percentage between looks over personality, will that is a little harder to predict as you can say its a 50/50 but the guy could be a bad guy and all scared up on his face that you would think why on earth would she be with him, but if money and or car come in to play she’s more likely to give him a shot over say a guy that has a mild income, no car and is average looki9ng but has a good guy attitude.
I’m going to take a little different direction with today blog post. Maybe you have in this situation maybe not, I’ve had a this crush as you might call it on this woman I know.
I’ve known her for some time now and on number occasions help her with acquiring episodes of her favorite show and other little favors along the years. Now on the other hand I did these favors for her in hopes that she will see me a someone that cares deeply for her. I’ve always noticed and commented when she had her hair done or when she was sick. She is a incredible woman, seems to have a warm and cheerful personality and a good taste in clothes too. But as time went on and I realized that she was doing nothing more than leading me on and basically using me. So as time went by I did my best to get over her and move on. Now that easier said than done since I work in the same company, but I manage to avoid her as much as possible and than just when I thought that maybe I’d be over her, I see her walk by and everything I felt for her rushes back and I can not help but watch her and day dream on how things might be if we were together.
Well that’s something that will never happen. I can wish all I want but for a wish to come true they say you should have faith, yet I have no faith when it comes to finding love.
So with St. Valentines day coming up, people that have no one to share it with it can be not only the loneliest day of the year but you’ll find that their mood has changed from sad to possibly even angry, especially in the days prior to the special day. And I happen to be one of them, have yet to ever be with someone on that day. Maybe I should count myself lucky. There is nothing worse that to be walking around and seeing happy couples holding hands or in each other arms, when all you have to hold is yourself. I can well understand why the suicide rate goes up.
Personally, The whole St. Valentines day is over rated, why do you need to show your love to that special someone on this particular day. This is something you should be doing every day. It doesn’t need to be St. Valentines day to bring her some flowers, or have a romantic night at a nice restaurant. You should be making her feel special every day, because you should be counting yourself luck she is with you.
Apart from that, I have found that St. Valentines day is more of a marketing scam. Always around this time Jewelry stores begin their sales for rings and other pieces of jewelry with the tag line, show her you care with a diamond or ring etc. Is that what it takes now to keep her happy, with a piece of stone. Is a simple I love you no good no more.
Even other areas of the marketing industry have taken lead with cards, choc, clothing, etc. is all this necessary. Since when has a day where you showed your love and appreciation turned in to a ploy to suck more money out of us.
I guess I should be counting my luck star I’ll not need to worry about trying to win over someone’s love with a piece of jewelry or buy her love with buying something for her when in the end it will be for nothing.
We all have them, some are so small that we dont really think of them as a fear while others have fears that run their live in a different direction. As I know for some it’s harder and more stressful not only to uver come their fear but also to control their fear.
We all have hear that saying to face your fear and again for some it’s easier than others. If you have a fear to talk to woman, to some thats pretty stupid and an easy fear to over come but that person it maybe a big deal and easier said than done to break that fear. While others might have a fear of spiders and freak out even at the sight of a little spider. Breaking that fear is a lot harder to do and pushed too far in order to break that fear could lead to health problems or death via heart attack.
For myself I have a few fears as we al do I’m sure. One just happens to be fearof talking to woman, particularly ones that I happed to be attracted too. But one of my recently overcome fears was the visit to the dentist. Ok given I still not that comfortable with the visit, I am a lot better and calmer with the idea. There was times I never visited the dentist in years, but in the past year I’ve been on a few occassions making a visit to my dentist and maybe it’s his humour or that the work done on me didn’t hurt as much as I expected, but now I dont stress about the visit any more and actually think of future visits.
So essentially I have over come that fear. So now if only all my fears was that easy, but they are not. Some will need more work and time. Baby steps I say and with baby steps you can over come anything, no matter how much your fear might run your life. Keep that in mind,
So I’ve been know to be someone that helps out friends when ever possible. I would even go afar as saying that I’d help even if not asked. Ok given a lot of the times the reasoning behind me helping is that I may have feeling for the particular person. But regardless of my feelings I dont expect anything in return. I go by a motto that if your happy i’m happy and thats enough for me. Satisfaction at it’s highest level. Makes me feel good that I can at least bring a little happeniess and make them smile.
I find that’s somethign that been lacking as the generations getting older. More and more people are expecting favours in return or expecting something that’s not there. Why do we need to expect something in return when you take it upon yourself to help out. It should be up that the other person to deside if they want to do something in return.
As long as I can make people happy, then at least in some part in me is happy too knowing that I can still make a person smile.
The other day I got in a heated discussing with someone about my views. Now some people in the world are positive thinkers and then you have the negative ones. But you also have people that are realistic thinkers.
Ok yes in some cases being realistic could come across as negative. But think about it. Why see the good in everything when in REAL life everything that happens isn’t always a good thing. Plus in the long run if you one of those that fights everything and believes that arguing a issue will possibly fix things, then the only person that you hurting is yourself with all the stress you putting your body through.
In real life there are battles that just can not be won, in today’s day and age we don’t stand to gather, we all judgmental, and in some cases selfish. Sometimes it just best to leave things along and go with the flow. Trust me you would be doing yourself more good. Now I’m not saying you have to sit back and do nothing, but choose your battles.
Again the type of person you are can also relate to relationships. If you one of those people that believes everyone stands a chance and see the positive in everyone then good for you, but realistically not everyone is set to be with that someone. Realistically a average guy with a average job will never get the attention of a incredibly beautiful woman. The odds of that ever happening is quite rarely not to say that it could happen. But think more realistically about who you want to date. don’t set yourself up to fail.
There’s nothing wrong with being a realist. It’s who you are….