All our lives we have been told to never think small and go for your dreams. But if you think about it been told that nothing is too small or great and can be achieved with hard work and will. But in reality that isn’t true, you can be the hardest worker or most positive person yet with with a missing factor you will not achieve that dream or even that there are certain dreams that we have that are in fact are impossible to achive. If anything we should be told the truth and be more realist when it comes to our dreams or goals.
all you can do is do what you can and hope that it is good enough, and if it’s not accept it and just go with it. Accept that maybe the way your life is at this present moment could be the best it well get. Be that with your current job, lifestyle or love life. There are just some of us that are not ment to be with someone or marriage or even have a good life where money is no object and having to be told that isn’t true and that you should think positive and go for what you want is actually more hurtting the person and will play a pyschological effect on him or her.
Basically what I’m getting to is be realist and accept it.
As of late we have been hearing in the news about bullying in the schools and online along with the effects on people. Seems it been more directed towards the younger generation. Now really I’m sure we all know that bullying has been around for decades and sure for some it was more harm ful that others while for some of us it only made us tougher mentially and physically.
Even though cyber bullying is not really considered bulling, if you recieving emails that are hurtful, then just dont read them, or create a new account/profile. You choose to read these emails, its unlike school bullying where youi can not get away from it and at times can be physically hurtful.
But we all seem to forget that bullying is happening in the workplace too. Bosses seems to think that yelling at their co-workers and belittling their workers not only their the privacy of their office but in front of other co-workers is ok. Even when the boss is in the wrong. Even if the person is in the wrong it does not give the boss the right to put someone through that embarressment. Not only does it effect that person mentally but it could even come to a point that person will quit the job even if they could not afford to do so, on top of which will bring that stress home and lay it apon family members just in turn causing even more stress that isn’t deserved.
Keep in mind the kids may be the future, but it’s what happening now that we need to fix.
As a society we are so quick to judge. For what ever the reason may be, if we hear that a particular person is living with a family member they are classified as a loser or someone that’s attached their parents ”shirt tail” so it’s been called.
Regardless of the reason, who are we to judge so quickly and really what does it matter for all we know the person could be taking care of a family member that is in need of help, financially or medically. Or that person could have chosen to live at home to pay of their debt or make them more financially stable for the future and considering how companies are reluctant to give out bonuses on raises yet with everything from food to transportation the cost of living is on the rise.
Instead of passing judgment maybe we should take a look at the bigger picture and take a step back and find out the true reason for the living arrangements. In this world nothing is perfect and if in a relationship you are looking for someone that meets everything you want in a partner, then you are going to miss out in so much more. So rather ask the right questions and listen before you write someone off.
For the past few years you have noticed something that has changed. Something that in the past few decades didn’t seem to bother anyone yet it seems that today’s society they want to make a point of changing it all. That something is being politically correct. Now 20 years ago no one care if you referred to someone that is black and a black man or if you are retarded as retarded but now we have to start referred to them as African American or Mentally Challenged. And the list goes on and one.
But besides that which really only effect a limit number of people. Now the past two years a new Politically correct change has come about and more so in Canada than anywhere else. For decades around this time of year it has always been declared at the Christmas season and stores and offices would decorate as they see fit. Now as we all now Canada has a habit of been know the refugee country as well they just about let anyone in. So naturally there are multiple religions in the area, now even though it’s still majority Christian, there is a still a growing number of Muslims populating the area.
So now people feel that it might offend them so instead of say Merry Christmas, it will now be referred to Happy Holidays and establishments need to keep decorations to a minimum or none at all. So what’s next that radios can not play Christmas music, yet funny enough during the Christmas break when companies employees have the day off to celebrate Christmas, so do the Muslim community yet they don’t celebrate Christmas, doesn’t seem quite fair. Now if you were to travel to the eastern world or any country you would need to follow their laws, yet it would seem that in Canada anyway, the country changes it habits to fit their needs more specifically the Muslim community. So bring me to the question where does it end, will woman be subjected to having to walk behind their husbands an cover their bodies, which the celebration of Christmas fall away completely.
Now there’s being respectful to ones feels but this is getting out of hand. So in the name of Name of holidays MERRY CHRISTMAS.
When it comes to seeking that special someone or just to meet a friend, people seem to have a criteria on what they want. Be it in looks, race or personality.
Then again there are some where anything will do, the desperate ones. For instance age. There are some that say the guy should be older while others feel that there should be no more than 5 years difference between the two of you. Sure in most cases the guy is the older one in the relationship. But the question is does it really matter, as long as there is a connection. But then why can the woman not be older than the guy. The funny thing is, society looks down on people that date a lot younger or older. Sure each have their benefits and true some of these cases is more for convenience rather than love.
Height also seems to play a factor. Been told woman like tall guys, something I have yet to get confirmation on as being a tall guy myself. I have found this to be the opposite. And yet there are couples where the woman is really short and the guy towers over her, to a point that she needs a ladder just to put her arms around his neck. And yet such relationships have worked while others have failed. So I guess a connection really does play a important role especially if it has to over come major differences.
Another point that people consider is weight. Some guys like a woman “chunky” while others seek the “supermodel” body. In some cases I can see why a guy would like a slim woman. They are more attractive when in a bikini or tight pants and there is nothing worse than seeing a chunky woman wearing something that does not fit or appropriate for a heavy person. But each their own.
Finally there is race. Guys like something exotic while woman seem to have a thing for a black males. But I have to believe that more in relation to the pleasures of sex, with size and tightness.
Basically after all is said and done we all have our own criteria about what we are looking for and in some cases it’s so extreme that you are going to get some stares. But love is blind. Or so they lead us believing.
How does one believe in themselves when there is no one believing in you. Be it through work, relationship or in general.
If you have to keep proving to people the type of person you are, eventually you will get to a point that you just give up. That say you should be yourself, yet what happenes when you don’t want to be that person.
It’s difficult to change the person you are when with every turn you are faced with people that do nothing but make things difficult for you or belittle you. You could be the best worker but you will always have a few that expect more from you and never satisfied and even if it’s not part of your routine. Or you could be the sweetest person with nothing but good intentions and still good enough to be with that person.
The same could be said when dating. No matter how nice of a person you are, there will always be something missing in their eyes and it would only be a matter of time before they break your heart and go with that other person. Then the cycle repeats it’s self all over again. We are no longer happy with what we can get, now we look to be with someone that’s bettr. Be it with someone with more money or one with more “power”.These days being with someone average is no longer good enough. So then what the point of being yourself, you just setting yourself to fail over and over again and with that you start to loose faith in yourself and everyone else.
What does one do when nothing in life matters to them. When everyone seems to walk all over them and when everyone makes you feel like you don’t exist. For a lack of a better word a ghost.
Day in and day out they follow the same routine, wake up, go to work, come home and finally sleep. The same thing everyday. It then come to no surprise that friends are non-existent and no one loves them and gives them meaning to live.
People have asked why they are so angry, simple. When they see everything that’s wrong in this world and that nothing gets done about it. It’s difficult not to get upset. Seeing people mis-use each other while there are others that all they want is to be with that special person. Or mis-use their responsibilities with their position at a certainjob, while there are hundreds if not thousands that all they want is a job. So they can enjoy their life.
So the question is what de we have to do in this world that give us meaning to live on.
When you have a job but would like nothing more than to better yourself. But get held back cause you lack the experience. Yet how does one gain that experience if there is no one in this world willing to give you that chance. Having to go everyday to a job that you dont enjoy anymore and cause you more stress that you dont deserve and in the long run could very well have you run in to health problems.
But having a job thats all wrong for you but can be overlooked if you had someone to share your frustraction with and for that person to help you understand what you are working for. That makes you feel like you are wanted.
But when all is said and done what is the point of having a job that you enjoy or having someone that you love and they love you when at the end of the day you are unhappy with yourself.
So then how does one change ones self when with everyturn there is a road block stopping you from improving or loving. If it was all that simple to start over or go back and change what needs to be changed, But then life is that kind.